(Warning: My brain is tired today, so this post might ramble just a bit!)
After scrolling through a bunch of photos the other day - photos of friends and family - something dawned on me: many of those people were posing and putting out a show-off-y vibe.
If you are on an online social network, just check out all the selfies by regular folk. (Celebrities don't count. Self-promotion is part of their resume.) Most of those selfies are of folk trying hard to look like they aren't trying hard to look really good. We've become a nation (world?) of desperate-to-be-beautiful people.
I bet most people don't find certain things "attractive":
- Too much makeup
- Too much skin
- Too much weave
- Too much posing
- That stupid "duck face" thing people do
I really hate the duck face. That's a real sincere look, right?
We've distorted what is really most attractive in any person: being genuine.
When I see stories about this woman, who transformed herself into a doll image, I just wonder.
|She's a living, breathing... Barbie?|
|And another one|
|Barbie & Ken?|
What is going on here? (By the way, there is a suspicion of a tinge of racism in one of these cases. I don't think it's racism. I think it's complete body-image ignorance.) I've read stories of people trying to change their appearance to downplay their racial features. That's some real self-hate there.
There are more of these "human Barbies" than I thought. Enough for a slideshow, apparently. I found a black "Barbie" without looking too hard. Their are no racial lines when it comes to distorted body images.
I wonder about the sanity and character of a person who is attracted to a person who looks like a plastic doll.
Growing up, I used to have the normal (?) pre-pubescent fantasies of being with whichever boy was the cutest in my school, a popular band, or on a TV show. Because I did grow up (and because I had great parents and other role models), I learned to appreciate people for their whole selves: personality, character, and motivations.
I have made some mistakes in judging some people but, overall, I am mostly attracted to people who are comfortable with who they are and how they look.
- A genuine smile
- Kindness in the eyes
I am sometimes socially awkward, so I relate to that in other people. It's also really cool when someone is socially comfortable -despite their looks, bank account or connections (or lack of).
A lot of us are attracted to people for reasons we can't put our finger on. We explain our attraction to certain people by saying that "there's just something about" him/her.
Instead of buying into and promoting shallow attributes, we should learn to find that "certain something" that is in all of us.