Wednesday, February 08, 2006

Liberation or Liberating?

These days when I fill out a survey or personal information card and get to the little boxes used to identify age demographics, I get to check the box for 35-45 year olds.

(Are you liking how I covered the age thing without giving away too much?!!)

Anyway, I have a friend who gets to select the box for 25-35 year olds. It doesn't seem like that's such a huge gap between the two of us, right? Well, that's what you'd think until it comes to the difference in our viewpoints on a few issues. Take sex. (I hear y'all saying, "Thanks, I'll have some." Just quit now.)

My friend (who would be closer to the 35 part of that age box) doesn't think there's anything wrong with "hooking up" with somebody and having no further expectations. I, on the other hand (or in the other box), can't see myself just getting with someone for what I KNOW is a one-time thing. It was bad enough the one time I found out after the fact that it was a one-timer-no-call-back-see-you-when-I-see-you. (Sorry bout that.)

Maybe I am old. I don't like to have sex with someone until I know what they might be about - until we have some kind of connection. (This is what may have run off the younger man I talked to you about once before.)


I think of myself as a "liberated" woman (I have to work for a living & If I do the asking out, I'll do the paying up), but maybe I'm not completely ready for everything that liberation brings?

So, what do you all think? Is this a generational thing? Are you all right with "getting with" someone just for the night when you know it's a one-time thing? I'd like to hear what anyone has to say about it (and don't forget to give me some idea of what kind of age box you'd be checking off!)


Later,
Free

2 comments:

  1. Me personally, one time or sporadic hook-ups with the same person outside of committment is ok, and can actually be fun.

    But I still believe in being discriminate. And the one-night-never-see-you-again-please-dont-call-here-no-more stands are garbage. I don't like someone coming in and out of my life so fast just for that...

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  2. i agree with code. i dont care for one nighters and i'm not even 30 yet, so it may not be a generational thing. then again, i may be different, i dont know. i also prefer to know someone first. i dont mind 1st nighters where u sleep with the person the first night IF everything has just been so great that u feel like u've known the person for a whille, ya know? that's different. i also dont mind just dating, where there are no commitments, just honesty; in fact, thats pretty much how i roll now.

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