**REVIEW** Lemomo Thermal Blackout Curtains Are TOTALLY Worth It

 Where I live in the Midwest, the summer temperatures are generally wonderful - high 70s to high 80s. To my family in Alaska and Arizona, that sounds ideal. But there's a huge downside: the humidity.

©WeatherSpark.com

It's noon right now and this is what my Weatherbug reports are looking like:

My apartment - which seems to get all the sun that exists - holds heat like a woman in menopause. It was about 69 outside when I snapped this pic of my thermostat...

Even my plants (all low-light types) get tired of the summer sun. As a matter of fact, one of my pothos plants starts to wilt if it gets too much sunlight. I love sunlight but I begin to wilt if I get too much heat. I've been in Iowa for almost 7 years now but my body has fond memories of Alaska's sunny but cool summers.

A while back, when I started the apartment re-do, I got blackout curtains. The ones in my bedroom are 100% blackout with thermal insulation. I, thinking "blackout" always meant 100% blackout, found a similar set of panels on sale for the living room. They are 85% to 90% blackout. I quickly learned that 10-15% makes a  lot of difference in this Iowa heat.

My living room with the "regular" blackout curtains, is a lot more comfortable than without them - a lot more comfortable. However, compared to the bedroom with the 100% blackout curtains, it's only slightly bearable.

If I'd only ever had the "regular" blackout curtains, I probably would've been mostly happy. Because I do have 100% blackout curtains in the bedroom, I just can't go back to life without them.

I really wonder how in the world I ever got any sleep in the summers before this. 

As I've said, sunlight doesn't bother me much (or it didn't). I spent most of my life in "The Land of the Midnight Sun". I could sleep with the Alaska sunlight knocking on my eyeballs. But here, the sun is different. It's a sharp bright. It's as bright as... whatever is the brightest bright there is.

But, okay, I adapted to the brighter sunlight. But the heat? That's a whole other discomfort.

I am one of those people who cannot (or, just doesn't like to) sleep without a blanket. My favorite part of winter is cocooning down under a huge heavy (and preferably weighted) blanket. In the summer, I use very lightweight comforters. I use them even when it's too warm but I'm not as happy about it.

Now that I have the 100% blackout (and thermal insulated, don't forget that part) curtains, my summer sleeping hours are heavenly. I still run my floor fan but, because of the curtains that keep out the heat, I actually feel slightly cool and comfy - even under my summer blanket. I don't even bother to open my bedroom curtains now. I have a SAD light that I use in place of the sun and I take my daily 10,000IU high-potency vitamin D.

This is what the bedroom looks like with the curtains (100% blackout) closed

in the full, midday sun. I have the laptop open to show 

the light/dark contrast in the room

And this is what the living room (85% blackout) looks like 

at the same time. 

I will give another example of how well the curtains work. One day, I thought of opening the bedroom blinds a bit and opening the curtains a crack. Just to let in a bit of natural light. When I reached under the curtains to twist the blinds, I was offended at how hot it was behind the curtains. The heat on my hand compared to what the room temp felt like was almost unreal. Back to the SAD light!

Because my books, writing desk, and laptop are in the bedroom, I am rarely in my living room unless I am watching a bit of TV or entertaining company. The "regular" blackout curtains keep it cool enough that my brother and SIL noticed one day. Before, when they'd come over, I'd put on the AC for them if it was really warm - and it usually was, of course. I didn't need to that day.

My whole apartment has been cooler but my bedroom has been absolutely lovely. Seriously. I can tell a difference in temps when I leave the bedroom for the living room. There isn't much airflow between the two rooms - which is why my AC never does much for cooling my bedroom.

The warmest it's been outside since I've had the curtains up is around 80 to 85F. I'm curious what my bedroom will be like when the 90F temps stroll into town.

Now...

Even though I am not being sponsored or compensated in any way, I want to share the links to these curtains for one reason: I have bought and used them and can speak on the quality that I got. I know that not every brand of item is always equal. I don't want people going out and getting curtains that might not be as good as these. So...I will share the links to them. 

They are from, of course, from Amazon. These are the 100% blackout (currently $36 for 2 panels) and these are the "regular" blackout (which are, as I type this down 31% in price to $23 for 2 panels, plus there is a 20% off coupon.) 

Once again - I am not being compensated in any way, shape, or form for this post. I wish I was because I could get those 100% curtains for my living room!

Peace

--Free

P.S.: It has taken a few days after writing it to post this. (Blogger is being problematic with photo uploads!). The weather has changed and now, instead of having temps in the mid-to-high 80s, it's currently 51F - at 10 in the morning! Iowa weather is as bipolar as heck...

**CROSS POST** What Christianity Is and Is Not

 So many people who are not Christian have a such bad view of Christianity. In most cases, this may be because of how they see our faith being represented by people who only call themselves "Christian".  I myself sometimes find it hard to separate the Christian faith from some of the poor examples I see. But as with anything, people can adopt any label they like but the proof is in their living.

Why are there so many poor examples of the Christian faith? I think it most often comes down to ignorance. Someone may be just have been born into a tradition that they don't understand or they got caught up in a cult or a fad. And for a lot of people, it's that they are under teachers of false doctrines.

Many people (like myself) can end up in Christian churches that are not good for them so they don't even know what it is to truly be a Christian. Maybe the person is not yet a Christian and doesn't know better. Maybe they are Christians who don't study their Bible - and so they don't know better. Maybe (and I think this is the most common reason) they put too much faith in the leader(s) of their church.

I'm no scholar but I am growing in my faith. I want to point out some signs of churches and "Christians" to avoid. Along the way, I hope you learn something about the faith - the true faith that is Christianity. By the way, when I use the term "true Christian", I mean one who is earnestly wanting to learn what Christianity is and is not. I will start with churches.

Avoid a church that...

•  Is affiliated with the New Apostolic Reformation (NAR). The lovely hosts of the Long For Truth YouTube channel have a series of videos about the NAR and point to this webpage of NAR-connected ministries and this page of NAR terminology.
• Uses something in addition to or instead of the Bible as an authority,
• or that teaches from "Bibles" that don't aren't actual or accurate translations - such as The Message - which may or may not be fine for casual reading. (Because there are several translations, here is one guide that I've used. By the way, I currently use the eSword to access several, including the KJV, NKJV, and NASB. I also recently got a copy of the TRB, which I love for casual reading before bed.)
• Has "prophets" with failed prophecies.
• Has leaders who are always getting a "fresh revelation" or are hearing from God. 
• Teaches that "you are god" too.
• Aligns with the teachings of any pastor who doesn't follow the teachings of the Bible.
• Teaches that Jesus was just a good man or teacher but doesn't recognize his divine nature.
• Focuses on your feelings, wealth, and health instead of your salvation.
• Welcomes sin with open arms instead of welcoming sinners with reasons to change.
• Loves the sin more than they love the sinner.
• Strives to entertain rather than to instruct.
• Cares more about what people think about the church rather than what Jesus thinks about the people.
• Teaches ecumenism and tolerance rather than truth and instruction. This is a current trend today with the LGBTQ community clashing with biblical teaching.
• Worries more about ruling this world and kingdoms here on earth than the King and kingdom to come.
• Teach from the minds of the pastors rather than from the Word of God.
• Teaches tithing as a requirement rather than as from personal willingness.
• Allows women pastors.
• Does not carefully monitor what is done with its resources.
• Does not have a good church structure and oversight of leaders.
• Encourages/approves of practices such as yoga ("holy" or otherwise), the Enneagram, mysticism, and other unbiblical teachings.
• Is based more on the personality of the pastor than the teachings of the Bible.
• Is a "charismatic" church. (By the way, I spent my pre-teens in a charismatic church much like those of today.)

Avoid a church that doesn't...

• Recognize the Trinity as 3 distinct personalities.
• Love you with the truth of the Gospel.
• Encourage you to study the Bible for yourself the Word of God.
• Teach strictly from the Bible.

Any church that is okay with...

• Everyone "speaking in tongues" (or, as in many churches, speaking in unintelligible and uninterpreted gibberish).
• Getting "slain" in the spirit.
• Being out of control with dancing and shouting as an expression of the "Holy Ghost". See 1 Corinthians 14:26-33, 14:40 and John 4:24)
• Their leaders accumulating a mass of wealth for personal use.

Look for a church...

• With a pastor and leaders who adhere to biblical guidelines for their positions.
• That worship with order and reverence.
• Where the Bible is the final authority and focuses on teaching from the Bible about salvation and the gospel.
• That isn't concerned with trying to "help" God rule in this earthly kingdom.
• Who helps members grow in their faith and prayer life and discernment.
• That equips members in building and keeping their "Armour of God" in the best shape.

Even as a Christian who is still learning and growing in my relationship with the Lord, I am often shocked at what goes on in so many churches. When I see a service where people are running around, speaking gibberish, and being "slain" by someone breathing on them or tapping them on the forehead... A lot of services are unruly and chaotic. That is completely unbiblical.

Many so-called pastors, leaders, and teachers have made theirs a ministry of money. They have private jets and lavish homes. Seeing all the Joyce Meyers, Benny Hinns, Creflo Dollars, etc. reminds me of rock stars and celebrities - not the Apostles. Those and many other false teachers are truly living the "love of money" sin.

And the problems are not limited to the big-name deceivers. There are many individuals with sizeable numbers of YouTube followers who are just as bad. Every time I see a channel creator with "Apostle", "Prophet/Prophetess", "The Divine", "Reverend Mother", or some such thing attached to their name, I cringe. This current generation is one that thrives on social media and other internet interactions for almost everything in their lives. Where better for charlatans and ego-greedy people to find an audience?

For anyone who professes a belief in God and salvation through Jesus, please get to know the Bible. Read, study, and pray for discernment. Be like the Bereans and question the authenticity of what you are hearing in church. Is it biblical, is it edifying, is it leading you more toward the Lord than to worldly things. 

The Bible teaches what we need to know about the church, church leaders, and the Christian life. In the TRB version of the Bible, I find it easy to locate such teaching and it might be helpful for the new Christian. For example, in Ephesians, there are directions given to us.

All you need to know to live your life for the Lord is taught in the Bible. As I have within most of this post, I will share articles from GotQuestions.org for some starting points that I myself find easy to read and understand and that will lead you to further study. 

• Living the Christian life in the community and in the home. (I also like studying Ephesians chapters 4, 5, and  6,  and Philippians 1, 2, and 3)
• Who is Jesus? Is Jesus God? How can Jesus be both God and man at the same time?
• Faith alone? Yes, faith alone! - not tithing, tongues, or any other work.
• The Christian and political affiliations and politics in general. Understanding Christian nationalism.
• Take reassurance in Romans.

Understand that if you have accepted the gift of salvation, it doesn't guarantee you health, wealth, or a problem-free existence. It does mean that you are eternally secure. When you accepted Jesus's gift, you were justified, you are sanctified, and when you die, you will be glorified. 

If you want salvation, it's a free gift.

Peace

--Free

4,846 Hours

 I was thinking about my goddaughter/niece and a song ran through my mind. Counting the time that she has been gone from us I find that it's 4,846 hours. 202 days or 29 weeks. 

It's easier to look up the time she's been gone. It's hard to imagine the conversations we haven't had. I just miss that girl so much. 

The other day, I realized that I've been sort of avoiding the plant she gave me for Mother's Day. I think that was five years ago. That thing grows like crazy with the least amount of care. I have it set up with an auto-watering system and that's good or else it might have died too.

Looking at the Monstera plant makes me think of my niece and that is sometimes painful. I did not really realize that I'd been neglecting it - even when I was doing the apartment re-do. Last week, I did notice that her (yes, "her") leaves were dull and some were dead. I think that it's a sign of my grief healing that I was able to show her some love.

I pruned away the dead leaves and still, she looked neglected. So I got some fresh soil and a larger pot and transferred her to her new home.

Still healing but she's
getting there...

I had to bind some of the stems!

Gabby (my niece) would love the color of the pot. I think she had a wig that color once! And I know she loved wearing eyeliner in teal hues. 

Me with my lovely niece
circa 2016. Alaska.

I felt a little bit sad when I finished repotting the plant but I also felt a little bit better than I have for a while. I look at the plant now and just think that I'm so glad I have it. It's a living part of God's nature. It's bold and beautiful. 

Gabby would laugh at me if she knew that I walked around here talking to her about the plant. I'd love to hear her laugh at me one more time. I miss her and I just wanted to say that.

Peace

--Free

**REVIEW** Pyunkang Yul Calming Moisture Nourishing Cream

 Finding a good skincare product that works for your budget as good as for your skin... that's tricky. But this Calming Moisture Cream from a brand I'd never heard of before ticks the boxes as they say.

This is a really good face cream. It's not heavy but it is moisturizing. I like the smooth texture. It's not greasy, it's not wet, and it doesn't take a lot for a good effect. The best thing (in my opinion) is the price. It was 10 bucks. That's the part I can't believe. I hope it doesn't get pricier as more people discover it.

I like the cream and the price so much that I took a chance and got the toner from the same brand. I will review that soon. For now, let's talk about this cream.

This has all the good stuff my skin loves - 5 hyaluronic acids, ceramides, shea, collagen - but it's got some ingredients I'd never seen before Madecassoside, Centella Asiatica, and Lonicera. Those are the "calming" ingredients. What surprised me is that it has tea tree. I'm not a huge fan of tea tree for my skin but I don't notice any irritation so there.

Also, my skin doesn't need "calming" so I don't notice that effect. I just like the moisture because my skin can be so bone dry. 

When I first started using this, our weather was cold and drying and I had to lightly boost the cream with some of my CeraVe Ointment or Abolene. Once I got the toner, I didn't have to use those other things with the cream except for overnight. Now that the weather is warming up, I notice that the toner and the cream are a perfect duo and don't need any boosting. I wonder if I won't need more than the tiniest bit once the summer humidity hits our town...

For someone with skin that is a bit less dry and, um, mature, this cream is probably fine solo.

My skin is sensitive. Anything can set it off - which is why I worried about the tea tree ingredient - but this doesn't irritate me at all.

Again, the price is amazing. I've had the one jar, using it in the morning (and sometimes at night) for about 6 weeks. This is what's still left:

Only takes a couple of dabs

So when I say it doesn't take much, I'm serious. Of course, I also use a toner (most days) and sunscreen. Still, I'm impressed. The product is affordable and the jar will obviously last a while. I have looked over some of the other P.Y. products in the P.Y. Amazon storefront - especially for "dry and sensitive" skin - and they are all quite affordable. The moisturizer is above-drug-store quality but at a drug-store price. I don't need any of the other products right now but I hope they are just as good as this cream and the toner I have.

Peace

--Free

**UPDATE** Can’t Wait to Talk to My Doctor

 NOTE: Let me say right here and now that I am not giving or even suggesting medical advice. I don't want anyone to do what I am doing without talking to a doctor. Be responsible and sensible with your health!

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UPDATE: It's been 6 weeks since I wrote the original post. When I checked my BP just now, it was:

I really can't wait to show this 
at my upcoming appt!

Just thinking back to the days when that top number was in or very close to 200+ is astonishing. I am still taking the supplements (magnesium glycinate and nitric oxide) daily. The magnesium helps with sleep so I take it at bedtime. I'm not as faithful with the nitric oxide but I take at least 1 capsule a day with my morning medications. I am still drinking plenty of water as I have been for the past few years (at least 70 ounces a day and as much as 85 ounces). My diet has not changed. I eat pretty much the same foods every day: pizza on homemade dough with a lot of EVOO, black olives, pepperoni, mozzarella, sauce, and aioli. If not pizza, I will make a flatbread from the dough, season it and eat it with EVOO and maybe aioli. I basically buy the same groceries every other week and do it all over again. I am not especially watching my salt intake and I am not getting any more or less exercise. 

So, yeah, I am definitely intrigued by the idea of people finding out what causes their particular HBP. 

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I have an appointment coming up with one of my doctors and I cannot wait to ask this question: Why don't doctors talk more with patients about supplements?

I think I mentioned here already that I use a magnesium oil spray to help with sleep and anxiety.  I tried Ambien for sleep once in the hospital and... no thanks. 

The only things doctors have mentioned when I've asked about non-prescription meds for sleep are melatonin and St. John's Wort. I hate both of those. One takes hours to kick in and then makes me groggy for hours after waking and the other just makes me feel weird. I already have enough groggy and "weird" to share with a few people.

When I started using magnesium oil sprays and told my doctors and nurses, they seemed to never have heard of it. Or at least not using it for sleep and anxiety.

Recently, I learned that many people - especially in my age group - are low on basic vitamins and nutrients. That didn't surprise me and for years, I have taken vitamins daily. However, I was very surprised to hear about a couple nutrients that could be helpful for me. Apparently, magnesium glycinate can help with (high) blood pressure and nitric oxide helps with blood flow to the kidneys. 

What?????

I checked with one of my doctors about the magnesium glycinate and when I started taking a tablet every evening about 1 or 2 hours before bedtime, I realized what I'd been missing out on. I would go to bed at about 10:30 and sleep like I have not slept in years. I'd wake up feeling very rested and better than I usually do. That energy generally wears off about 4 hours into the day (or, depending on my health, 4 hours in) but that's not surprising and it's still good. I usually wake up ready to lie back down.

After taking the magnesium for a couple of weeks, I had an appointment with my nephrologist. My blood pressure reading was shockingly normal: 116/80. 

Again, WHAT????

The doctor was, of course, very pleased. My normal readings look like 140+ or 135 -  not bad, but could be better, right? The doctor praised me like I was a good little girl for eating better and getting more exercise. I hated to admit it but I did tell him that I hadn't changed anything except for taking the magnesium. He seemed to poo-poo the idea that the supplement could have any noticeable effect. I'm really sensitive and I felt like my hopeful observation had been politely dismissed.

~sigh~

To understand why that blood pressure reading was so significant, you have to know what my readings used to look like.  It wasn't until I was around 35 (young, active, and skinny) that I was diagnosed with HBP. My readings looked like the highest speeds on a car's display - once before finding a combo of prescriptions that worked, the top number was 210. I can't remember the bottom number. That 210 scared my doctor so much that I was sent to the ER to be given treatment. I was advised not to go home until the numbers came down. The thing is, that high number was so normal for me that I didn't feel any different before or after it stabilized to a better reading.

Anyway. That's why a number like 116 was a stunner. So, to continue...

Very recently, I heard about nitric oxide supplements. I searched around on some medical sites (ugh!) for more information. After straining my brain to sort of understand the doctor-ese, I had someone online help me decipher the basics. It turns out that the supplement could help boost blood flow to the kidneys. 

I am a CKD Stage 3b patient - like I didn't have enough to deal with healthwise... Why has a doctor never discussed nitric oxide with me? Why will I have to be the one to bring it up at my next appointment?

The last blood pressure check that I did at home - after I'd been taking both supplements - was once again shockingly good: 112/59.  Even if there is a reason that I should not use these supplements, they should both be something I knew about from doctors.

I really don't want to be ugly about it but I've lost family members to problems with their blood pressure. 

For years, people with high blood pressure were told to lose weight, stop smoking, eat better, exercise more, etc. My sister and my mother tried those things and it changed nothing. Maybe it has something to do with ethnicity or generational bloodlines because high blood pressure has always been a dominant health issue for many black people.  And remember that I said I have not changed what I eat or upped my exercise - and my blood pressure is down. 

 This makes me feel a bit distrustful of the medical profession. Also, I now agree so much more than I did with that silly Chris Rock when he says:

This is the kind of thing that makes me wonder if there really is no cure for the sarcoidosis I have. Maybe there is a cure for diabetes and cancer and many other deadly diseases. But if people get cured, there's no "comeback".

Peace

--Free

Time for a Cool Change (Part 1)

I have always liked Little River Band's song "Cool Change" and the lyrics feel fitting just now. 

♫♫ Time for a cool change

♪ I know that it's time for a cool change ♫

♪♪ And now that my life is so prearranged ♬

♬ I know that it's time for a cool change ♪

For health and economic reasons, a lot of my life is very "prearranged" and I'm mostly fine with that because I know that I am blessed to have the life that I do. There are people so much worse off and less hopeful. Still, I felt I needed to make some small changes in my personal living space. I want to have a more relaxing and mentally soothing environment. 

My goals? 

To change up the look of my apartment without spending any more than $150 max. I have been wanting something less dorm-room-looking.

I decided to go with a black-and-white theme with accent colors of peach, pink, and red. Too bad I'm stuck with that ugly blue chair. Ugh! I'm going to cover it with a pink knit throw! LOL

Did I make it? 

DAY 10: I'm getting there. I am managing to totally update the look of my tiny living space by re-purposing a lot of items and buying just a few things. So far, I am almost just about done with the living room and about to start on the bedroom.

These are the stages of my living room which was very, um, bare minimalist.

I didn't even have curtains!

That Walmart futon is still good as new. The giant sunflower & pink artwork still reminds me of my late sister. I've killed any plants shown here...  Just had to toss out that Dollar General bookshelf (after almost 6 years).

This is what I had up for "curtains"... ~sigh~ 

I call the look "Boho Broke"! 

And I had that up for about 3 years maybe??? I got that fabric from someone and just thought that it gave a nice boho-chic Boho Broke (coined it!) vibe as re-imagined curtains! LOL

DAY 12: And this is how I re-used that fabric when I got actual curtains...

Living room, almost done and...
I repurposed my old fabric "curtains" to make a swag.

It might take me a while to finish. I have used up my energy and have been having a couple of bad days. It's not a good idea to use a stepstool when my equilibrium is not good. Also, I am having to be very careful of the budget. I am using the Camel app to get price-change alerts on the few items I need. One of my credit cards lets me do no-interest payments for purchases over a certain amount so I am getting a little coffee table and another set of blackout curtains for the bedroom

Oh! And speaking of blackout curtains... The ones I got for the living room are one of the best buys ever. Not only do they keep down the temp in the living room but they somehow muffle a lot of the noise from the communal patio right outside my windows. I rarely do recommendations but I have been telling my family about how much I love the Lemomo brand. My Arizona folks better run and not walk to get some! The 100% blackout thermal ones (a set of 2 panels) were $24 plus tax when I snagged them. I should have got them a couple inches longer but I am okay with them being a bit high water. 

I hope to be feeling better soon so that I can finish. Once I have the desk (a lift-top design), I plan to spend more time in the living room. The temp will be cooler because of the curtains and I already am finding the more refined look to be soothing.

Where is the budget going?

• 2 panels of thermal blackout curtains (in black) & a new curtain rod (about $27).
• 1 black Damask striped bed set and a black comforter. (about $40 for both) I already have a white comforter and a white duvet cover to switch it up. I also already have sheets in grey that will go well with either the white or black comforters.
• 1 lift-top dark brown "wood" coffee table with hidden storage (about $86 but paying in interest-free $15 credit card installments so I'm not counting against the total budget.)
• A beautiful metal green scent diffuser for the living room (about $36).
• A set of cute ceiling fan pulls with lightbulb and fan icons (about $7)
• A set of blackout curtains for the bedroom and a blackout curtain rod (about $40 for both)
• A set of queen-sized pillows, 2 protective cases, 2 white satin & 2 black satin pillow covers (about $40) I already have 4 pillows and a set of black satin cases.
• A free chair from a neighbor who is moving!

I am still quite a bit under my budget and don't expect to spend much more. I am slightly over budget but I have already decided that if I do need to spend any more, I will use the interest-free payment plan. Honestly, I think I am done.

DAY 22: I just finished the living room last night and it was a tough push-through. (A neighbor stopped by to help me with a few things, bless her.) I have put out the coffee table and the beautiful diffuser. (Bonus: because the diffuser works so amazingly well, I no longer need to buy wax and oils for the wax warmer. So... I will only need essential oils  - which are MUCH cheaper). 

The new look vs...

~sigh~

By the way, I seriously love the diffuser (below). It has a light mode with about 4 colors to switch between, At night, it's so soothing. Also, I am happy to say that the scent I have come out stronger than what I was getting with the wax warmer. This is much less messy.

Everything in that photo (except the diffuser) is re-purposed and most are very special to me. The book is special. My baby brother gave it to me when I moved here. He found it at a book sale and a character in the story has my name! The scarf is one my late niece always wore. The framed print by the plant and diffuser is one my late best friend gifted me one birthday. The frame on the left above the red vase is a card from my late friend - one of the last that I got from her - that I framed. The plant - that now crawls halfway up the wall - was a gift from a neighbor. I helped her out with something once and, when she found out I loved plants, she gave me a cutting. Most of my plants are from that one, including the 2 newest cuttings in the glasses to the left of the diffuser.

That plant... it has "mothered" about 
6 others since I got it!

I have not started the bedroom at all. I don't think I will get to it for a while unless my SIL comes over to lend a hand. I'm so freaking pooped. By the way... I did not spend any more than $190. Since my neighbor gave me a chair, I finished spending a while ago. 

I will update the post with more photos when my computer starts cooperating!

When I finish with the bedroom and get the chair from my neighbor, I will post the final photos. My whole purpose in sharing this re-do is to show that it doesn't take a large budget to refresh a small apartment. The results are already a boost to my mental health. And I don't mind eating tuna sandwiches for a while to save back the money!

Peace

--Free

P.S.: I said I was done shopping - and, trust my bank account, I am! - however... I saw this and fell in love with the idea of having one. Putting this on my Christmas wish list!

Beauty at 60+

Thanks to my parents (especially Dad), I have "good skin" genes. I'm glad but it's nothing to be proud of. It's not like I earned this skin...

The Good Skin Years:

For many, many years, I took my "good skin" for granted. As a young person, I never struggled with acne. I never had to worry about dry skin or oily skin. I grew up in Alaska, Land of the Midnight (or almost-never-ending) Sun. Never wore a drop of sunscreen for maybe 10 of the 40 years I lived there. 

When I did start thinking about skincare, I used sunscreen, avoided soaps, used a lot of oils, and still took my skin for granted. Then I turned 56. Oh boy. 

The Warning Signs:

The first very fine lines started across my forehead. I always had smile lines because I smile a lot and because of my wide mouth. But the smile lines became more prominent. And I started to get these little dark spots on my face - just like the ones my father had. 

Those dark spots freaked me out. I had noticed (but not paid much attention to) the ones Daddy had on his face. I think he was also in his 50s when I first noticed his spots. Now that I was developing them, I wondered if I should be worried. I found out that the spots are called Seborrheic keratosis and they tend to run in families. Like "good skin", I guess. Gee, thanks again, Dad! LOL

So, at around 55-56, I started to think more about skincare. I noticed every little thing about the skin on my face and my body. The dark spots - which are only on my face - are the one thing I can't afford to do anything about and I'm not that bothered by them anyway. And I'd like to think that I'm not particularly vain so I don't mind the fine lines and wrinkles. I think of them as "proof-of-life lines". But I don't want to deal with preventable issues - cancer or severe non-cancerous skin problems.

Anyway...

This is 61 with a freshly washed face and freshly washed and twisted hair. No makeup. But don't zoom too far in.

The New Attitude:

I started taking my skincare more seriously about 5 or 6 years ago. As in, not just routinely and mindlessly slapping on oils and moisturizers to keep away the dryness. I stopped buying just any old sunscreen. Basically, I stopped being slapdash with my skincare.

At 60, I actually started developing a skincare routine. I began to think more about products. Morning and night, I clean my face with oils and (non-soap) cleansers; I use good quality (broad-spectrum) sunscreens; and I use a toner, base moisturizer, and a sealing moisturizer. For my all-over body care, I still use the moisturizing washes I've always liked but I've started being more diligent about applying after-shower oil and I've started buying better moisturizers. I pay more attention to ingredients than hype and I will actually (though grudgingly) pay more for better quality products. If I have to.

All this really started making a difference - within a few weeks. My skin is now less dull and always feels super-hydrated -without my having to reapply moisturizers and lotions several times a day. I have far fewer blackhead problems. By the way, that situation was getting out of control! For a while there, I was having to tweeze away blackheads like it was a paying job.

Another benefit to getting a routine down is that I spend less money. (Well, I'm getting there.) I did have to go through a few products to find which ones worked better for my skin type. Thankfully, I have found that some really good products are quite budget-friendly. 

The two products I'm willing to spend a few bucks more for (if needed) are sunscreen and a night moisturizer. Instead of buying every new product that comes out, I am down to a few good items that work well. Spending more on 4 products every 3 months is much cheaper than spending a few bucks on several things every 3 weeks. (Pro Tip: curb your product junkie cravings! If you just have to, have to, have to try something new, write the brand to ask for a sample.)

I am sure that quitting smoking (4+ years now) helped. The funny thing is, this routine is less time-consuming than what I was doing before. In the past, I would use oil and baby wipes to clean my face, then use another oil to moisturize. Then, all through the day, I was reapplying oil to my face and more lotion to my skin. That was because of not layering and locking in hydration. Also, some products just aren't that good or long-lasting. Also, I was sometimes just skipping the moisturizing altogether.

New Routine:

Nowadays, first thing in the morning, since I'm in the bathroom doing morning stuff anyway, I cleanse my face and then, while I'm having coffee and watching the news, I do my sunscreen and moisturizers. That takes maybe 5 minutes. My body care takes only 10 minutes after showering. What a difference 15 or 20 minutes of consistent skincare makes. And consistency seems to be the key.

Goals?:

Just as with anything, it's not about how you look so much as about how you feel. I will be very happy to live long enough to develop more wrinkles, trust me. I'd like for those wrinkles to be hydrated and lovely but I want them!

I don't want to have "young-looking" skin, but I want healthy skin. As a matter of fact, as pithy as it sounds, I don't think we should worry about looking attractive. We should worry about being attractive. I want to always be gracious and kind and uplifting. (I said I want to be, not that I always am!) 

When I die, I want people to miss how I made them feel. I want to be remembered for things that really mean something. 

Get It From Mama:

My mother had beautiful skin and absolutely glorious hair. When she got sick, her skin and hair were severely damaged by medications. She never stopped smiling and feeling blessed to be alive. When people talk about my mom now, they talk about how she was a "mom" to everyone. I have former co-workers who probably remember more about my mother than they do about me. Everyone we knew called my mother "Mom", "Mama C" or "Grammy". There were friends of the grandkids who only knew her as "Grammy". For real. Some of them did not know her actual name until they saw her obituary...

Mama has been gone for 22 years now and almost everyone who knew her still misses her. They miss knowing that they could always talk to her about anything. They miss knowing that no matter when they came into her home, they were going to be fed, loved, taught something, hugged, encouraged, and prayed for. 

During Mama's funeral, a group of 6 or 7 people filed in several minutes into the service. They only stayed for about 10 minutes, then they all filed quietly back out. This happened again during the reading of the obituary. Later, checking the memorial book, we realized that it was some nurses and staff from the dialysis clinic. They had been given longer breaks in small groups to come and pay their respects. Her one-time doctor who had retired and moved out of state some years before sent a beautiful floral arrangement. For the longest time, we would receive condolences in the mail from young people who were late hearing about her passing because they had moved away for college, marriage, or gone into the military. My mother was that kind of beautiful.

To Be Well- Remembered:

I keep in sporadic touch with friends back in Alaska. Catching up online a couple of months or so ago with "Missy" (a woman I worked with back when dinosaurs roamed and I was in my late 20s), she sent through a recent photo of her son "Lee". He was just a kid it seemed the last time I saw him. Over the years, I've seen photos of him graduating from school, starting his first "real" job, getting engaged, etc. He's now got 2 kids of his own. Missy (who'd been a young and single mom and just turning 20) reminded me that it was my mother who taught her how to soothe Lee when he was non-stop fussy.

At the time, Missy was over for one of our barbeques or something but she was so frustrated because she couldn't figure out what was wrong with her baby. I barely noticed because there were (as usual) so many kids making noise out in the backyard. Missy and I can now laugh so hard about how Mama had come inside, put down the tray of chicken (or whatever) she'd taken off the grill, shook her head, and took the baby from Missy. She laid Lee on the couch and started cooing to him while she gently rocked his knees up toward his chin a couple of times. All of a sudden, that kid pooted out a long and loud trumpet note. He went from fussy to laughing just like that.  ("Sweet baby just had a little gas, didn't you.")

What I didn't know until this recent conversation is that my mom had apparently once talked Missy through a really bad bout of postpartum blues. So my friends were calling my mom on the phone back then? Wow.

So, yeah, I love having good skin, I'm a little vain about my hair, and I miss the crap out of my size 4 (5, 6, 8, and 10) figure! But who cares what I will look like when I'm dead? I want people to remember the stuff that matters.

Age thankfully. Be grateful. Love.

Peace

--Free

**REVIEW** Raslock Aloe Vera Gel

 I love aloe, especially in the gel form, but it has to be good aloe. Not sticky aloe or with a lot of other ingredients added. I found a really good aloe once in Alaska but have never been able to find it since... But I have found a gel that I love, love, love. 

This is the replacement

The first time I ordered from the Raslock brand, I knew I'd found the product I would want to always have around. I initially got the version that came in a bottle with a pump ($9.99 or $0.77/oz). As much as I loved the aloe, the pump didn't work so I emailed the seller a video showing the problem and asked for a replacement pump. Just the pump. They sent a replacement bottle of the gel, Nice.

The next time I ordered the gel, I chose the jar version ($9.99 or $0.87/oz). I like leaving the pump version in the bathroom for guests to use in place of lotion after they wash their hands. I keep the jar in my bedside drawer to use along with my face and body moisturizers. 

What I love about this aloe gel is that it's not sticky in the least. That's been a problem with some aloe I've tried. Also, there are no unnecessary ingredients, just aloe (first on the list) and glycerin, and fortified with vitamins B1, B6, and B12. There is no added alcohol, fragrance, colors, or parabens. When I rub this into my skin, it absorbs completely.

This aloe is good enough to be used alone as a hand moisturizer - which is why I keep some by the bathroom sink - but I love using it with my face and body lotions. I had one face lotion (which I will not buy again because it's not very moisturizing on its own) that works really well as a night cream when I add a bit of the aloe. I have some decent foot creams (and really dry feet!) that get next-level good when I add the aloe.

My SIL was over one day and after using the aloe in the bathroom, she asked to take some of it home until she could order her own. It's really good aloe. To stretch it out, I went ahead and added some of my cheap unscented lotion to the bathroom jar!

Whenever I used aloe before, I only used it for burns, scrapes, etc. Even when I used the plant, I never thought about using it as a regular moisturizer. Since I got this aloe, I have been using it under my chapstick, over my sunscreen, on my scalp, and at night with my face cream. It only takes a little. And I'm in love with the texture it adds.

I'm not sure what was going on with the other aloes I tried but they were almost all too sticky or tacky-feeling on my skin or they were so watery that they weren't very hydrating. I didn't mind because I was mostly only using them in first-aid situations. The liquid that I found in Alaska was not sticky but I thought that was because it was a liquid. I think I just need to read the labels more carefully, especially when buying aloe in gels. Hopefully, I will always be able to find this brand or something just as good.

I've even been using the gel in my hair care. Since I did that big chop, my hair is not growing back as fast as it always has. Scratch that. My hair is growing back; I'm just not retaining the length as I once was able to. That may be due to aging or it may be due to the climate here. At any rate, I am now applying a little of the aloe to the ends of my hair after washing. I will see how that goes.

So, yeah. I am ranting about this gel because it's that good. Normally, I just review products based on how well they work for me without recommending them to anyone (outside my family). This time, I'm going to go out of my way to recommend this to anyone who has dry skin, sensitive skin, or who just wants a cheap way to boost their other skincare products.

Now that I have streamlined my skin and hair care routines (I know I keep bringing that up lately), I like having something as affordable as this gel. Instead of replacing some of the face and body lotions and hair products that weren't as moisturizing, I'm able to use them up now by adding the gel. Maybe I will end up replacing some of them completely.

Peace

--Free

Disclaimer: I was not paid or compensated in any way for the products mentioned in this post. The free replacement I received was not solicited nor offered in lieu of a review. 

Walmart Is Spotlighting Black-Owned Brands

 I thought I would pass this along. Walmart is putting a spotlight on black-owned beauty brands. This is great for those of us looking for hair and skincare targeted to our specific needs. 

And, here's the thing: just because the brands are "black-owned" that does not mean they don't have products for all hair and skin types. 

Look at all these beautiful people

Since I have been working on streamlining my personal beauty routine, I've tried not to be lured into buying every new thing that comes along. However... LOL. Looking through this section of items on Walmart's site, I am seeing brands I never heard of before. I may have to snag one or two items over the summer.

One day, I'm going to put together a post listing all the beauty brands I've come across. I've found some amazing products from K-beauty, Afro-beauty, and Euro-beauty. I need to do a big ol' link list. In the meantime, take a gander at the Walmart list.

Something in every category

By the way, I only noticed a few weeks ago that some products on Walmart's site are eligible for subscription purchases. I guess they are keeping up with Amazon's Subscribe & Save option.

Well, now you know. I am going to scroll through some of the items but I'm sticking to my new streamlining method. I don't buy anything new in a category until I have used up what I already have. But the first thing I do want to try will be from the Pardon My Fro brand! 

Peace

--Free

Apologies to Aunt Jackie

 So.

I had to come and post a HUGE apology to Aunt Jackie and her hair products. Or at least 3 of the products. When I look back at the times I have trash-talked the brand, I'm kind of ashamed. Also, I am puzzled. The first time I tried the Quench Moisture Intensive Leave-In Conditioner, I said some hatefully nasty things when I was critiquing the claims. Such things as:

" Moisture - Well, it's wet, so I suppose that's where that came from. It's wet in the bottle and still wet when I apply it. Wet = Moisture. Until it doesn't."

And, 

"Intensive- I'm kind of mad that that word is even in the label next to "moisture". I am intensively upset with that."

And... 

Leave-In - That's true. You can leave it in. I could also leave talcum powder or dry rice in my hair. Same effect.

See? Brutal. And I am apologizing big time because when I recently tried the Quench again and a couple of other A.J. products, the results were... kind of stunning. In a good way.

Quench? That stuff is amazing. I have to believe that I got a counterfeit the first time I tried it or else my hair has radically changed. (And I think I got it from Amazon that time so... possible!)

In addition to the Quench, I tried the Butter Cream Intensive Moisture Sealant and the Curl La La Defining Curl Custard. The Sealant was truly amazing and I love, love, love what the Curl Custard does to my hair.

What the what, right? To be fair, I do think that my hair texture has changed. It does that every couple of years it seems. I can go back through this blog and see the difference in photos. Also, I never used the Butter Cream or the Curl La La before this.

The thing is, my hair has never made such a quick and drastic change as it has this time. It was once a definite 4C. Since it has grown back in after my big chop - or maybe after I started using the Bentonite clay - it's become more of a 4B-kinda-leaning-C - and a loose C at that. The curls are naturally looser, even before I apply any products. Even at its driest, it's nowhere where near as "dense" as before. 

The last time my hair texture was this manageable after a fresh washing (and before applying leave-ins or doing an oil wash or stretching it with yarn) I was barely in my 20s and rocking a gorgeous Jheri Curl (minus that heavy leave-in stuff). You can still see that pic somewhere on the sidebar.

I knew that the Quench and Sealant were doing something wonderful when I applied them after washing my hair, then got busy gossiping with family on the phone for an hour and forgetting to apply other products. My hair was drying from the wash but not dried out/fried out like usual and there was less shrinkage. It was so weird.

My hair had totally air-dried by the time one of my nieces and I finished minding everyone else's business and got off the phone. I thought I would have to at least dampen my hair again to apply the rest of the products. Nope. There was not a parched strand on my head. What was also nice is that my curls were not all clumped together and tight-feeling. They were very lightly defined as when they are a couple of days old and set with a curl cream and a couple of moisturizers and other leave-ins. All this from the Quench and Sealant.

I applied the Curl La La next. (cute product name!)  I didn't glob it on. I would put a small amount on a couple of fingertips and pull the cream through small sections of my hair - from root to tip. Wow.

What I ended up with is my freshly washed hair looking as nice as it does after a couple of days of applying and re-applying products. Amazing.

Oh, and I love the Quench and Curl La La for touchup styling throughout the week. Because of my hair color, it can be hard to catch the curl definition with the camera so I did some closeups. 

The first pic is of my hair still slightly damp after I washed it and used the products. 

Immediately after
washing, Quench, Butter & Curl La La.
Still damp.

The 2nd pic is of my curls the next morning after a bit of light styling. All had to do was spritz my hair with water, let it dry, then lift my curls with my fingers and go. No overnight twists or anything. 

The next morning. No touch-ups. Just spritzed

with water.

It was nice not having to sleep on twists. I prefer having a truly natural look to my curls and doing a twist-out when my hair is this length is work. The twists don't stay put unless I secure them in a Bantu knot. When I feel up to it - and when I have more length, I will use the AJ products and do a twist out. Just for kicks.

So, yeah. I am sending out apologies to Aunt Jackie. It was about 8 years ago that I talked the most trash about the brand but, still... Sorry, Auntie! (LOL) I love the products and will be looking to try more.  They all have nice, light, and pleasant scents to them. Another plus is that the jars and bottles are good sizes for the prices. (Actually, I notice that Walmart has the lowest prices on the products.)

Peace

--Free

NOTE: This is NOT a sponsored post & I am in any way being compensated. I bought the products at full price.